Anger-bending

'Anger' is the weapon of the devil.

Since I was small I was taught to not let my anger take over me, but never taught how. So what I did was I suppress everything. When I'm mad, I stay silent. When I'm angry, silence. When I'm upset-- you get the picture. At first it was okay, as time heals nearly everything, including anger. Then this thing, starts happening. Everytime something tipped me off, I would get really angry, but still remained silent. The anger builds up in time. Sure, time heals, on the outside. On the inside, things are boiling up, like a pressure cooker. Then another phenomena, fear. That I might burst at any time, worst-- at the wrong person. I was an angry child. Haha

It was awful. When it's fine, it's fine. When it's not, tension builds up. No one knew I was angry, no one knew I was upset because I kept it to myself. So the fear grew bigger, as I learn my ways  through logical thinking, that if I burst suddenly, even if at the right person, would be inappropriate, because I never told them it was wrong, or that I didn't like what they did. I would be the bad guy in the end. Anger is bad, suppressing it is bad, so what's good?

No tool is either good, nor bad. Only the wielder has the power of choice.

You don't suppress it, nor do you let it blow up. You divert it. Let your anger out to a direction where it can cause minimal  collateral damage, and in a way that it is constructive rather than destructive. If you feel the need to speak, speak. Try doing it in third person, it gives you more perspective of the picture you're in. And if you feel the need to act, do it without passing the 'anger flame' to the listener. It's not the Olympic. Get mutual  grounds, speak with respect, don't assume. NEVER, assume. It makes an ASS out of  U and ME. Sometimes it could be that we are wrong, and their  patience is the one tested, opposite to what we think. Could be.

I try, not to be some angry little dude, or something. It's not easy, I admit. Changing the lifestyle, changing the mentality. After years of adapting to one, suddenly I'm to make a U-turn. The prophet (pbuh) did get angry, at times, but he never let it take over his judgement and conscience. He remained calm, that sometimes the sahabah would see his face turn red, but he never lost his cool. MasyaAllah, and keep in mind, he was put through A LOT. And he would always ASK before anything. He didn't cut anyone off while they speak, or throw judgement before they could defend themselves.

 -Hafidz Iddin

Al-Amin

"He peddled his goods and always struck an honest bargain. As to why Muhammad (pbuh) was nicknamed al-Amin. the trustworthy."

You see light in the most subtle of things. Most of  the time, you sense the presence of the light, but source of the light remains unseen by the eyes, but not to the heart that seeks.

Where I live, there is this one restaurant I literally grew up with. A plain, decent, casual restaurant. There's really nothing there, except for food. The food, too, is not one would say astounding. But there is a certain  allure to it.
"You did say you grew up with it, surely you are drawn to it, right? Like a second home."
Well, yeah.. but there are only six people in my family. The place is always flooded with customers. Can't be just us one family, right?


When Muhammad (pbuh) was selling goods for his then to-be wife, Khadijah, it is merely the goods that drew him customers, it is his attitude towards everyone, and every matter. He did not lie, he did not cheat, and he treated all kindly. With it he earned the profit, and with it he earned the love of Khadijah. Pure intentions.


It could just be me, but that is what I see in that restaurant.
"How could you possibly portray that in a restaurant?"
Here's how,
They don't sell cigarettes behind the counter, they sell goat's milk, habbatus sauda (black seed), raisins, and occasionally, honey. The food Rasulullah favours.
They don't have flatscreen TVs booming of local dramas, or stereo systems playing classic, melancholic music, instead they have the tentatives of upcoming program at the local masjid (which is opposite to it).
They put du'a stickers on the walls, (before meals du'a, of course) and even articles on the aurah next to the sink. ahah
All of the workers, (female) wears hijab. Although some of them don't cover up perfectly, it's still an improvement.
They are closed during the Ramadhan, no explanations needed.
Their boss, provides the workers shuttles to their hometown during 'Eid.

If you've noticed, I didn't mention the name of the restaurant, because I'm not promoting it like on TV (which, some of them are nothing but lies). I'm promoting the  manner of the place. People have been  saying "if I do this, I'll go bankrupt. People won't come here anymore."
In a way, we diss away the teachings of Muhammad (pbuh), and we are muslims. The ones buying the goods sold by Rasulullah then were not the muslims, they weren't any then. It was the bedwin arabs. And it wasn't the goods that drew them. MasyaAllah..

The sunnah, aside from cleansing the soul from impurities; cleanses our body--our goods from being tainted as well.

Da'wah takes many forms, but it all starts with the heart of the Dai'e. A good heart goes a long way, but never astray. One who attends to any matter in the name of Allah, surely He will ease you through them. InsyaAllah.

Arise, youth!

Relive the Sunnah, relive the generation.

Hafidz Iddeen