Assalamualaikum :D
I wanted to write more on youth and marriage, but figured that it'd be a dreadful lengthy post. So this is the sequel of marriage vs education! Today our hero faces a much larger foe, the villainous LIFE! Which makes education child's play, and also concerns the parents more when their child wants to 'put a ring on it'.
Is it weird that all of this is coming from someone who's not engaged to getting himself married at the moment? It might be. But as a friend of mine said, if he were to get married at our age, he would have to make a Powerpoint presentation to his parents on why he should get married. Me? I'd go for mahjong paper. Aha kidding.
So you're convinced to get married young, with little spare change in your pocket, no shelter of your own, no all-access private transportation--in other words, nothing on your hands. So what do you have? A plan. Like a project, planning is numero uno. Once you have a plan, all should go well, given you follow your plan. Of course in time, you grow new ideas, alternatives, backup plans in case your initial plan backfires. Sounds like a war? well it is! I think.
So what's there to plan? *refer to cartoon* The guy's not making any sense, but the girl is. Haha fail! it's like a flow chart really.
-Who will do what / for how long
-What can you cut off / how much do you save from it
-By when will you have what (a necessary transportation / house / a nice-to-have / child)
Seems more complex than just "get married and Allah will multiply your rizq" right? It's what we call tawakal. Once Rasulullah SAW saw a beduin man getting off his camel and walking into a building, without securing his camel. So he approached the man regarding what he witnessed, to a reply "I leave it to Allah to for its safety". Rasulullah SAW said "tie your camel, then leave it to Allah".
in all serious-ness.
So why exactly am I writing this, despite my marital status (SINGLE)? Because I had just promoted marriage between youths, and if anyone is encouraged by my words, and successfully settle an agreement with their parents, without any knowledge or preparation for what comes next, it'll be on my head. Marriage is serious business. Of course it's good, but statistics show that a majority of marriage during their youth, ended up in divorce. It'll be good, if you know how to make it so.
Although we have their blessings, the one true that matters is His blessing. And that, is in ourselves. Our relationship with Allah. Without His blessing, what chance do we have of being happy?
-Hafidz Iddin
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